The birth of a baby is one of the most transformative experiences a couple can go through, and ensuring your partner feels involved can make the journey more supportive and collaborative. As a Utah County doula, I’ve seen firsthand how empowering it is when partners are engaged and active participants in the birth process. Here's how you can involve your partner every step of the way, fostering a positive and connected experience.

1. Education is Key: Take Classes Together

One of the best ways to involve your partner is to start with education. Many birthing classes are available in Utah County that can teach both of you about the stages of labor, breathing techniques, and how to create a birth plan. Encourage your partner to attend these classes with you, whether they are held at local hospitals, birth centers, or through doula-led workshops. The more informed your partner is, the more confident they’ll feel when it’s time to offer support.

Some popular local options include:

Intermountain Health Classes in Provo and American Fork
Prenatal Classes at Utah Valley Hospital
Birth-centered classes at The Birth Center in Orem

2. Create a Birth Plan Together

A birth plan outlines your preferences for labor and delivery, from pain management options to who you want present during the birth. Involving your partner in crafting the birth plan allows you to communicate your wishes clearly and ensures they understand your goals. They can act as an advocate for your preferences during labor, ensuring your wishes are followed even when you’re focused on the birth itself.

In your birth plan, consider discussing:

Pain relief preferences (natural methods, epidural, etc.)
Who will be in the delivery room
Preferences for newborn care (immediate skin-to-skin, delayed cord clamping, etc.)
Partner roles (massage, breathing support, emotional encouragement)

3. Practice Comfort Measures Together

Labor can be long and challenging, but there are many ways your partner can support you physically. Whether it’s through massage, suggesting different labor positions, or reminding you of breathing techniques, practicing these comfort measures in advance can make both of you feel more prepared. As a doula, I often help couples practice these techniques so the partner feels confident in providing hands-on support.

Here are some techniques to explore:

Counter-pressure: Applying firm pressure on the lower back to alleviate discomfort during contractions.
Breathing cues: Your partner can help you stay focused on controlled breathing patterns.
Position changes: Partners can support you in trying different positions like squatting, rocking, or using a birthing ball.

4. Be Emotionally Present

One of the most important roles your partner can play is simply being emotionally present. Labor can be overwhelming, and having your partner by your side, offering words of encouragement, holding your hand, or making eye contact, can make a world of difference. Emotional support helps reduce stress, making the labor process feel less isolating.

Encourage your partner to:

Offer positive affirmations (e.g., "You’re doing great," "We’re in this together")
Be patient and calm, even when things get intense
Focus on making you feel loved and supported throughout the process

5. Partner as Your Advocate

During labor, you may not always be able to clearly express your needs. This is where your partner’s role as your advocate becomes crucial. Whether it’s communicating your birth plan to the medical team, asking questions about interventions, or ensuring your preferences are respected, your partner can play a pivotal role in ensuring you have the birth experience you desire.

As a doula in Utah County, I work alongside partners to empower them in this advocacy role. Together, we form a team that focuses on making sure you feel supported and heard throughout the birth.

6. Postpartum Involvement

The birth process doesn’t end once the baby is born; the postpartum period is a critical time for bonding and healing. Partners can stay involved by supporting the mother’s recovery, caring for the baby, and helping with household duties. Skin-to-skin contact, helping with feedings, and offering emotional support as you recover are excellent ways for your partner to stay connected and involved in the early days of parenthood.

Final Thoughts

Involving your partner in the birth process makes the experience more collaborative and strengthens your bond as you transition into parenthood. Whether it’s through education, practicing comfort techniques, or simply being emotionally present, your partner plays a vital role in supporting you through labor and delivery.

At EmpowerHer Doula in Utah County, I believe that every birth is a team effort. By preparing and empowering your partner, you’ll both feel more confident and connected throughout the journey. If you’d like to learn more about how I can support you and your partner during your birth experience, feel free to reach out for a consultation. Together, we can make this an experience you both treasure

How to Involve Your Partner in the Birth Process: Advice from a Utah County Doula